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Frank York's Second Open Letter to Multnomah about Gary Ezzo

A Second Open Letter to Multnomah About Gary Ezzo and GFI

From Frank York
Former Editorial Director at Growing Families International


May 16, 2001

Publisher Donald Jacobson
Multnomah Publishing Company
P.O. Box 1720
Sisters, Oregon 97759


Dear Mr. Jacobson,

On March 23, 2001, Christianity Today published an article online entitled, Babywise Publisher Plans Contract Cancellation." The article revealed Multnomah's plans to sever its contract relationship with Gary Ezzo, Babywise author and founder of Growing Families International.

The article exposed the contents of e-mails that Jeff Gerke, a former editor at Multnomah, had written to Dr. Matt Aney, a long-time critic of Gary Ezzo's flawed medical advice for infants.

In my own dealings with Jeff Gerke, it appeared that he was conducting an honest investigation into the allegations that have been made against Gary Ezzo over the past decade. These allegations include:

  • a consistent pattern of lying both to his supporters and his pastors
  • a habit of "making up" medical statements that have no basis in fact
  • an unwillingness to acknowledge that infants have been harmed by his teachings
  • a tendency to foster divisiveness in churches
  • a willingness to seek to destroy his critics,
    and much more.

Just beneath this Christianity Today article was a statement issued by you. In essence, Multnomah has distanced itself from Gerke's findings and the statement said your company's investigation is still in "process."

It is now the middle of May. I am wondering if Multnomah has finished its investigation.

I am sure you must expect a certain amount of skepticism from individuals like myself who have provided your organization with overwhelming evidence showing that Gary Ezzo has serious ethical flaws. His former pastors John MacArthur and Dave Maddox have been very clear about Gary's difficulty in telling the truth.

I experienced his penchant for shading the truth and outright lying while I was on staff. I have also experienced it since then.

As you know, Gary has been quietly distributing a lengthy diatribe against many of his critics, including myself, to GFI-related churches. You have a copy of this document. (I e-mailed it to you on March 24 with a note asking you to refrain from punishing Jeff Gerke for conducting an honest investigation.)

I wrote a point-by-point rebuttal to each and every lie and half truth Ezzo wrote about me in his letter. A copy of my rebuttal was sent to you via e-mail. This rebuttal is also posted on Steve Rein's web site, just below my first "Open Letter" to your organization. This "Second Open" letter is also to be posted on Rein's site.

Have you contacted each of the individuals who were attacked in Gary's letter to get his or her side of the story? Have you contacted Eric and Julie Abel, GFI co-founders and former Ezzo confidants who were on Ezzo's video teaching tapes? Have you contacted Chris Hamilton, GFI's former accountant? Have you talked to Gary's former pastors John MacArthur or Pastor Dave Maddox?

Have you contacted Laurie Moody, a former leading GFI Contact Mom who says she has 50 documented cases of low weight gain or failure-to-thrive infants due to Ezzo's flawed medical advice to moms? Moody was one of the few Contact Moms who had lactation credentials. She speaks with authority on this topic. On January 9, I e-mailed you a copy of Moody's post on ParentsPlace.

In her post, she discusses the accuracy of Christianity Today's article about Gary Ezzo, "Unprepared to Teach Parenting?" (Nov. 13, 2000). Moody points out numerous instances where Gary has been caught lying or shading the truth about various allegations made against him. She confirms the accuracy of the Christianity Today article and the integrity of the author, Kathleen Terner.

Multnomah has had several opportunities to conduct an honest investigation of the allegations against Gary Ezzo. In fact, your company went through the motions of investigating Ezzo back in 2000. You released a "Multnomah Publisher's Position on Growing Families International" statement to bookstores that carry Ezzo's books.

When this statement was obtained by the Christian Research Institute, the CRI staff analyzed your statement and sent you a point-by-point rebuttal that clearly showed that your organization had not conducted a serious investigation. It was apparent that someone on your staff had relied solely on Gary Ezzo's written defenses and had done little or no original research or contacted the critics. The CRI letter, dated February 4, 2000, says the following:

. . . while the Position Statement claims to be the result of a Multnomah investigation, it is predominately a compilation of previous GFI writings, even in cases where you have not referenced GFI or indicated you are quoting them. You sum up your investigation of our interactions with GFI by quoting verbatim from GFI's website.

Is your current investigation going to include interviewing the critics of Ezzo's character and materials? No honest investigation will be complete if you fail to contact several of Gary's main critics. In addition to the critics listed above, you should also contact: Dr. Matt Aney; Steve Rein (whom Gary has accused of a criminal offense); Kathleen Terner; Kathy Nesper of Apple Tree Ministries; Roy Maynard with WORLD magazine; and myself.

Let me mention that one of the primary criticisms of Gary Ezzo — from his former pastors, from his critics, and from former employees like myself — is that Gary consistently lies about his materials and his critics. This is why it is highly unreliable for you to depend upon Gary Ezzo to tell you the truth about those of us who have challenged him. You need to talk to the people whom he has repeatedly maligned.

Please keep in mind the following points:

  • You're already aware of how Gary Ezzo "made up" a supposedly verbatim interview with Roy Maynard, a respected writer for WORLD
    magazine. He created a phony interview with Maynard to make him look unethical and incompetent as a reporter.
  • You know that he lied to his accountants about his son-in-law's misappropriation of as much as $500,000 from GFI.
  • You also know that he had me involved in a scheme to turn Pastor John MacArthur over to the IRS for an audit — and he was hiding his
    personal involvement in this plan.
  • You're also aware that he has consistently misrepresented his educational background.
    Perhaps you should re-read the statements issued by Grace Community Church and Living Hope Evangelical Fellowship about Gary's dismal record as a truth teller and builder of unity among Christians.

One would think that a person who has been declared to be "unfit for public ministry" and placed under church discipline by two of Gary's pastors within the past few years would be ill-suited to be published by a company that places a high value on integrity.

As I stated in my earlier letter, Thomas Nelson chose integrity over profits when it discovered that Weigh Down Workshop founder Gwen Shamblin holds heretical views about the Trinity. Nelson gave up millions in profits because it valued the truth over falsehoods and heresy.

Will Multnomah choose profits over integrity in the face of what is overwhelming evidence against the character of Gary Ezzo? I certainly hope you choose integrity and truth over falsehood, whatever the cost.

Sincerely,


Frank York

Hermitage, Tennessee

P.S. — The controversy over Gary Ezzo has only grown since the early 1990s, so failing to take a stand in the hope that this issue will "blow over" would be a serious mistake. Knowledge of Gary Ezzo's lack of integrity has already spread widely in both the Christian and secular worlds, and it would be unfortunate if your company's well-deserved past reputation for integrity were to be permanently sullied by its continued association with a man like Gary Ezzo. Please don't allow that to happen.

Frank York's Third Open Letter to Multnomah about Gary Ezzo

August 9, 2001
In a letter dated July 5, 2001, Kyle Cummings, a Vice President with Multnomah Publishing Company invited me to a face-to-face meeting with Gary Ezzo to discuss the character accusations against him and medical misinformation contained in Mr. Ezzo’s book, On Becoming Babywise.

Mr. Cummings explained that this meeting would be mediated by Peacemakers Ministries, headed by Ken Sande. According to Cummings, this meeting is required by Matthew 18 when there are disputes between two believers.

I sent him back a letter dated July 15 in which I explained my reasons for declining such a meeting at this time. Multnomah also sent similar letters to Pastor John MacArthur at Grace Community Church where Gary Ezzo was publicly rebuked; Pastor Dave Maddox at Living Hope Evangelical Fellowship where Gary Ezzo was excommunicated; Eric Abel, a former GFI employee and Ezzo confidant who resigned because of concerns with Ezzo’s integrity and materials; and the accounting firm that severed its relationship with Mr. Ezzo over his lying about his son-in-law’s misappropriation of as much as $500,000 from Growing Families International.

Several of the individuals contacted have sent letters of refusal to Multnomah, citing sound biblical reasons why such a meeting is inappropriate and unbiblical when repeated and unrepentant sin is involved.

The letter below details many of the reasons why I believe such a meeting is unneeded and inappropriate.

A Third Open Letter to Multnomah About Gary Ezzo and GFI

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July 15, 2001

Mr. Kyle D. Cummings
Senior Vice President, Multnomah Publishers
204 W. Adams Street
Sisters, Oregon 97759-7832


Dear Mr. Cummings,

Thank you for inviting me to become a participant in your proposed meeting over the character and writings of your author and my former employer, Mr. Gary Ezzo.

It is unfortunate that this controversy must be made public, but Mr. Ezzo’s apparent continued lack of repentance and his attempts to smear his critics have led to the need for a public airing of this controversial leader’s character and materials.

I would be agreeable to discussing the mediation you propose further, but I believe it is inappropriate until you have exhaustively investigated and responded to the serious charges that have been made against Mr. Ezzo. I will detail my concerns further on in this letter.

As you know, I indicated in an Open Letter to Multnomah in February that I thought your company should investigate the serious allegations that have been made against Mr. Ezzo by his two former pastors, former employees, his former accountant, a former leading GFI Contact Mom, medical professionals, and other critics of his materials.

I was encouraged when you assigned your former editor Jeff Gerke to conduct such a thorough inquiry. I was also encouraged when I learned that after Gerke had submitted his findings to your leadership, you contacted Mr. Ezzo and told him you were severing your relationship with him over these character and medical concerns.

However, on the same day that a Christianity Today article appeared describing your decision to sever relations with him, Multnomah President Don Jacobson apparently overturned this principled decision, and he then issued a statement saying the investigation was still "in process."

Mr. Jacobson indicated that he was "attempting to act prudently by fulfilling the biblical injunction of hearing all sides of a matter before acting."

I am puzzled as to why there was a decision to reverse course after having notified Mr. Ezzo that you were severing your relationship with him. I assume you and others on your staff reviewed the overwhelming evidence of lying on his part over the course of more than a decade.

I also assume that you reviewed the analysis of medical misinformation in Babywise that was supplied by California pediatrician Dr. Matt Aney. He pointed out 35 specific instances in Babywise where Ezzo makes medical statements that are unsupported by current scientific knowledge.

I sent Jeff Gerke examples of babies who ended up needing intensive hospital care after being malnourished by moms who attempted to follow Ezzo’s feeding schedule advice. (During my time at GFI, I routinely sent these cases of "failure-to-thrive" or "low-weight-gain babies" to Mr. Ezzo for his review. He discounted them as being, to use his words, "fabricated" or "exaggerated." The nurses who dealt with these infants called them "Ezzo Babies.")

In addition, I sent Jeff a detailed analysis of the medical misinformation in Babywise by another Christian pediatrician who lives in Indiana. This analysis was originally sent to Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo by a pastor in Ohio. It is dated June 23, 1997. This pediatrician ended her critical analysis of Babywise with the following words:

"In case you haven’t noticed, I don’t think this book is very good. There is a fair amount of misinformation in it, recommendations which go against both my training and experience as well as against the policies of the American Academy of Pediatrics.

"I wouldn’t want parents to think that babies don’t sleep through the night unless their parents put them on a regular schedule because this just isn’t true. I also feel that the authors are asking parents to train their children to eat when they are told to do so, not when their body is ready. All babies quickly establish their own consistent eating patterns which rarely vary unless they are sick. They don’t need to have a schedule imposed on them."

Did you find Gerke’s research to be flawed in some way? If so, it would be helpful to those of us who are still concerned about Mr. Ezzo’s character and medical information to find out what those errors were.

It is important for you to thoroughly investigate the medical misinformation in his books because his advice has negatively impacted the health of babies.

On the character side, there are certain statements that Mr. Ezzo and Dr. Robert Bucknam have made about their educational backgrounds that are suspect. If I were a publisher of Christian books, I would be deeply concerned to learn that two of my authors had misstated their educational accomplishments. It would cast doubt on their integrity and the accuracy of their materials.

Christianity Today has stated that both Mr. Ezzo and Dr. Bucknam have misled the public about their educational backgrounds. It is fairly simple to verify if these statements are true or false.

Has Multnomah called Mohawk Community College to see if Mr. Ezzo actually does have an Associate’s Degree in Business as he has claimed? Did your company call Talbot Theological Seminary to see if he earned a Master’s Degree in Christian Education as he has claimed? Likewise, did Multnomah contact the University of Colorado School of Medicine to see if Dr. Robert Bucknam is actually a faculty member there?

Christianity Today has found that Mr. Ezzo does not have an Associate’s Degree nor a Master’s in Christian Education as he has claimed. Dr. Bucknam has never been a faculty member at the University of Colorado as he claims.

Has Multnomah contacted Ezzo’s former accountant Chris Hamilton to find out if Mr. Ezzo lied to him about Robert Garcia’s (Ezzo’s son-in-law) misappropriation of nearly $500,000 from Growing Families International? Mr. Ezzo apparently told Hamilton it was a loan, yet Robert has admitted he misappropriated the funds.

Have you interviewed Mr. Ezzo’s former pastor Dave Maddox to see why Pastor Maddox would issue a statement saying that because of Ezzo’s unrepentant heart, he is "biblically disqualified from all public ministry"?

Have you read John MacArthur’s Grace Community Church’s statement (September 14, 2000) about Mr. Ezzo? In it, Grace notes:

"It appears rather obvious on biblical grounds that Mr. Ezzo’s refusal to heed his own church’s discipline disqualifies him from Christian leadership or public ministry in any context. After all, the first and most important qualification for those who would lead the church is that they be above reproach (1 Timothy 3:2 10; Titus 1:6)."

While I can appreciate your sincere desire to sponsor a "peacemaker’s" meeting, it appears to me that such a meeting is premature and would be counter-productive until Multnomah has thoroughly investigated the facts surrounding Mr. Ezzo’s false educational claims, his flawed medical advice, his refusal to undergo a disciplinary process by two former churches, and other accusations against him. One of those "other" accusations is that his materials are dangerous not only to infants, but to families and to churches where his parenting philosophy has caused division and strife.

Furthermore, a Matthew 18 type meeting is not appropriate for dealing with Mr. Ezzo’s sinful behavior, but a 1 Timothy 5 response is. 1 Timothy 5: 19-20 says:

Do not entertain an accusation against an elder unless it brought by two or three witnesses. Those who sin are to be rebuked publicly, so that the others make take warning.

Only after this type of biblical procedure had been followed and Mr. Ezzo had demonstrated genuine repentance would Matthew 18 type meetings be appropriate to resolve additional matters of personal offense between him and his critics. Until then, knowing how he manipulates situations for his own purposes, such meetings might be used by him as in the past, to avoid further accountability and even to cause further harm to his critics.

Mr. Ezzo has fled from biblical disciplinary efforts at two of his former churches: Grace Community Church and Living Hope Evangelical
Fellowship. This whole process is now in the "tell it to the church" stage. It is regrettable that it had to reach this point, but there have been few other options.

When the Grace Community Church statement was released against Mr. Ezzo, he maintained he was under accountability at Living Hope. When Living Hope attempted to bring biblical correction to him, he left that church. Currently he is claiming he is under authority at yet another church. The cycle repeats itself.

What is at issue here is not a personal squabble between two Christians, but whether or not he is fit for public ministry because of his habitual pattern of lying and false teachings.

A Christian leader—a teacher—should be held to a higher standard than others in lay leadership positions. A man of Gary Ezzo’s stature in the Christian community should be above reproach, yet those who know him well consider him to be arrogant, unrepentant, a skilled liar, and a slanderer. This doesn’t speak well for a man who travels around the globe teaching "biblical ethics."

One of his own staff members told me shortly after I went to work at GFI that the senior management team all acknowledged that Mr. Ezzo was a liar. That blunt disclosure, coming from a man totally loyal to him, was of no comfort to me. It did, however, confirm what I had personally experienced with him while on staff.

As his two former pastors have observed, Mr. Ezzo has forfeited any right to public ministry because of his sinful and deceitful behavior.

Your company is committed to integrity. It is my hope that after you’ve discovered the truth about Mr. Ezzo, his response will be one of genuine repentance and a willingness to then contact all of those individuals whom he has sinned against over the past decade. The list is quite long. Many individuals have repeatedly attempted to engage him according to the principles of Matthew 18, but they have been rebuffed and smeared.

I believe you will find most of them willing to engage in the type of meeting you propose, if they can be assured by what has gone before in your investigation that a basic requirement of such meetings can be met: both parties must be genuinely willing to acknowledge and correct any demonstrated wrongdoing.

Please feel free to contact me again about your proposed mediation meeting after you’ve completed a review of the materials that have already been sent to you. I would be happy to discuss such a meeting if you can confirm that Gary Ezzo has an Associate’s Degree in Business from Mohawk Community College and a Master’s in Christian Education from Talbot, that the money his son-in-law says he misappropriated from GFI was really a loan as Ezzo claims, and that the other concrete allegations made against him are in error.

Conversely, if you discover that he has lied about these things, I would want to know before discussing Multnomah-sponsored mediation why you would want to continue publishing the works of an author who has lied about his educational background, the financial mismanagement of his company, and whose advice contradicts accepted medical practice.

Of course, as Mr. Jacobson has stated, in your investigation, you are attempting to hear from all sides of this issue. A great starting point would be to conduct phone interviews with Phillip Johnson at Grace Community Church, Dave Maddox at Living Hope Evangelical Fellowship, and with Mr. Ezzo’s former accountant Chris Hamilton.

These individuals, like myself, have experienced the real Gary Ezzo, not the slick public persona who appears in his videotaped presentations or during his speaking engagements. There are two Gary Ezzos. You, perhaps, have only been exposed to the public version, not the real version.

I have a list of others you may wish to interview in order to do a thorough job of investigating Mr. Ezzo’s character. On your request, I will supply those names to you. I gave a great deal of information to Jeff Gerke during his investigation, so you may wish to review that evidence as part of your ongoing effort to get to the truth.

It is tragic that Jeff Gerke resigned over this controversy and that you distanced yourselves from him. Those of us who were interviewed by him felt that he acted with integrity and that he did an excellent job of gathering evidence in this case. He presented you facts that put him at great personal and professional risk. He should have been honored by your company for having the courage to tell the truth.

I look forward to hearing from you after you’ve confirmed the truth or falsehood of the concerns I have listed above. Please feel free to call me at the number listed below and we can have a candid discussion about this.

In the meantime, I am sure that both of us will continue in prayer about this situation. We are both seeking the truth and desire that the Lord will give us wisdom in bringing about a resolution to this controversy.

Sincerely,


Frank York

Hermitage, Tennessee

615-885-6356

Original Grace Church Statement Regarding GFI and Gary Ezzo

A Statement Regarding Gary Ezzo and Growing Families International

by the Elders of Grace Community Church

This statement was unanimously affirmed by the board of elders of Grace Community Church on 16 October 1997. We have received a flood of inquiries about our stance with regard to Gary Ezzo and Growing Families International (GFI). What follows is a brief summary of why Grace Community Church is no longer affiliated in any way with that ministry. We as elders cannot endorse GFI until these matters are resolved, and we wish to make our position clear. We have delayed making a public statement as long as we held out hope that these concerns might be resolved privately. Unfortunately, that no longer appears possible. We fully realize that many people worldwide have assumed GFI enjoys our full support. Literally dozens of people each week ask for clarification of our position relative to GFI. Therefore we believe this public statement of our concerns is warranted--and even somewhat overdue. It is still our earnest prayer, however, that these things may ultimately be resolved in a way that honors the Lord and is in harmony with His Word.


At an elders' meeting in the Spring of 1993, the elders of Grace Church asked Gary Ezzo to be more accountable to them--particularly with regard to the content of his teaching and the amount of time he was spending in GFI ministries beyond the purview of his responsibilities as a pastor.

Soon afterward, in June 1993, Gary announced he was resigning from the pastoral staff but planned to continue serving as a lay elder, keeping Grace Community Church as the base of GFI ministries. The reason he gave for resigning from the church staff was that GFI now demanded his full-time involvement.

The elders nonetheless urged Gary to follow through with his commitment to be more accountable, especially with regard to the content of his teaching. Gary promised to do so.

The pastoral staff began a review of Gary's published and taped material, and met as a group with Gary in mid-1995 to outline several concerns about the doctrinal and biblical content of GFI materials. (Some of those same concerns are given below.) Gary seemed to receive the criticism well and in a good spirit. He explained and clarified several points, and promised to make changes in his material to alleviate everyone's concerns.

However, in the weeks immediately following the meeting, Gary wrote letters to some of the pastors who had raised criticisms. He characterized their concerns as petty and personal, and indicated he believed the staff's criticism was driven by one or two people's personal agendas. He repeated those allegations in private conversations with church members.

The changes discussed in that meeting were never submitted to the pastoral staff. Instead, Gary resigned as an elder and withdrew from Grace Church completely. Ultimately several of his closest followers left the church as well.

Here is an outline summary of some of the more serious concerns Grace Church's pastors and elders have raised about GFI and its teachings:

1. Confusion between biblical standards and matters of personal preference. The best-known example of this is the GFI emphasis on infant feeding schedules, combined with GFI's zealous opposition to demand feeding by nursing mothers. Portraying scheduled feeding as the true biblical practice, GFI strongly implies that demand feeding should be regarded as an unbiblical, humanistic--even sinful--approach to caring for infants. As elders, we see no biblical basis whatsoever for GFI's dogmatism on this issue. While not opposing scheduled feeding, we would caution young mothers not to adopt any system of parenting that is so rigid that it requires them to quell the God-given maternal impulse (cf. Isa. 66:10-13).

Other examples where matters of personal preference are presented as if they had biblical authority: GFI parents are taught that sling-type baby carriers are too child- centered and therefore incompatible with biblical parenting. GFI curriculum also teaches that mothers should not rock their babies to sleep; that they should not comfort or feed crying infants in the parents' bed--and especially that moms should never sleep next to their babies. Portions of the material seem to place an undue stress on stifling the mother's desire to comfort her children. For example, Matthew 27:46 is used to justify the teaching that mothers should refuse to attend to crying infants who have already been fed, changed, and had their basic needs met. Gary Ezzo writes, "Praise God that the Father did not intervene when His son cried out on the cross" (Preparation for Parenting, p.122).

We find throughout the GFI material a blurring of the line between that which is truly biblical, and simple matters of preference.

2. A lack of clarity on certain fundamental doctrinal issues. In particular, GFI materials tend to be unclear on the issues of original sin and human depravity.

For example, in tape 12 of the "Growing Kids God's Way" tape series, Gary Ezzo says: "It is not the will of the child that is corrupt but the nature that drives the will. It is the flesh that is corrupt." "The will itself is morally neutral." "The will itself is not corrupt, the flesh is corrupt. The will is morally neutral."

However, Scripture clearly portrays our sinful nature as something that holds the unregenerate will in utter bondage (John 8:34, 44; Rom. 6:20). Nothing in Scripture suggests that the human will is morally neutral; rather Scripture teaches that the will of the sinner is bent inexorably toward sin, enslaved to various lusts (Rom. 8:7-8; Titus 3:3). Every faculty of the sinner's heart is corrupted by sin (cf. Gen. 6:5)--and particularly the will. That is the whole point of the doctrine often labeled "total depravity," which we affirm.

The notion that the human will is neutral is the very foundation of Pelagianism, a heresy that dates back to the Fifth Century. We do not believe Gary intends to teach Pelagianism. He has expressly stated his belief that children are born with a sin nature. (Even the statement above seems to hinge on Gary's assertion that "the nature . . . drives the will"--i.e., if the nature is corrupt, the will tends to make sinful choices. But this still stops short of affirming what Scripture does: that the sinner's will is in absolute bondage to sin.)

Again, we do not suggest that Gary means to deny the utter depravity of the sinner. But by over-classifying human faculties and declaring the will "morally neutral," he has left room for serious misunderstanding on the issue. A similar example is found in the GFI book Preparation for Parenting, where parents are told that the child's conscience at birth is a "clean slate"; and then a footnote differentiates between the "higher" and "lower" conscience. All of this seems needlessly to confuse the biblical stress on the utter corruption of the human heart and all its faculties (Jer. 17:9)--even from infancy: "The wicked are estranged from the womb: they go astray as soon as they be born, speaking lies" (Ps. 58:3).

3. Insufficient attention to the child's need for regeneration. Potential confusion on the human-depravity issue is compounded by the weight of emphasis given to moral indoctrination, compared to the relatively meager stress on the child's need for a divinely-renewed heart. Parents are repeatedly told that the goal of parenting is to raise a "morally responsible child"; and that they can "restrain the natural corruption by instilling into the child the self-disciplines of life" (Preparation for Parenting, p. 22). The impression is left with many parents that in training a well-mannered and morally innocent child, they have raised their child "God's way."

To be clear, our complaint is not that GFI material denies or omits the doctrine of regeneration. Statements are scattered throughout various GFI publications that do mention the child's need of conversion. But the truths of the gospel and the necessity of divine grace are by no means the essential heart of GFI's instruction to parents. Gary himself once reported in an elders' meeting that GFI material has found a warm reception among Mormons and other non-evangelicals. This would hardly be possible if the truths of the gospel received sufficient emphasis in the curriculum.

4. A tendency to isolationism. GFI parents tend to insulate their children from other children--including Christian children--who are not part of the GFI "community" (i.e., those not indoctrinated in GFI principles). GFI parents have been known to sever all relationships with non-GFI families. To some degree, GFI teaching is directly responsible for encouraging this attitude.

While still a pastor at Grace Church, Gary Ezzo helped found a private "Community School," where children could be enrolled only by personal invitation. Of course, only GFI parents were asked to enroll their children. Some were even encouraged to withdraw their children from Grace Church's own Christian school, and move them instead to the Community School.

Several GFI-trained parents have kept their children from participating in organized church youth activities in order to avoid exposing their children to others not "in the community." Some GFI parents have objected because non-Christian young people are welcome to attend youth- group activities, and because Christian young people in the youth group have been encouraged to befriend and evangelize non-Christians in their schools and neighborhoods.

GFI material does not caution against, but rather defends, that type of isolationism. In fact, Gary Ezzo teaches that to do otherwise could irreparably damage the "moral innocence" of children.

All of those are reasons why GFI materials are no longer available from Grace Community Church. One additional concern has to do with how Gary Ezzo has responded to criticism.

In several instances, Gary Ezzo has declined to listen to concerns from essentially friendly critics--including fellow elders, pastors, and even co-workers in the GFI ministries. His responses to the elders of Grace Church have reflected a repeated tendency to avoid accountability. For example, when the Community School was started, elders from Grace Church's School Council asked for a meeting with Gary to share some concerns about his involvement with the Community School. Gary refused to meet with them. Later, when asked about the Community School in a full elders' meeting, Gary told the elders he had no direct involvement with the Community School. But in fact, he was serving on the School's board of directors. In at least one case he assured a group of concerned elders that he would seek resolution of a long- standing conflict--then later refused to do so. His departure from Grace Church left a disturbing number of conflicts unresolved and concerns unaddressed.

At the same time, Gary has been known to respond with exaggerated and even false accusations against his critics. For example, just before he withdrew permanently from Grace Church, Gary sent an e-mail message to a Grace to You donor in the Midwest. In the message, Gary claimed that several staff members of the church had "gone amillennial in their eschatology"; that attendance at the church had dwindled so that church services were largely empty; and that Lance Quinn (Senior Associate Pastor) had "walked out" on John MacArthur--implying that Lance had left the church staff under less than positive circumstances. (Of course, not one of those accusations is remotely true.) Gary asked the donor to pray that the church would "close out its remaining years with dignity."

Our choice would have been to deal with all these things privately, and that has been the reason for our long silence until now. We consider it profoundly unfortunate that we must issue a public statement such as this. But our efforts to address these concerns privately have been rebuffed or disregarded. Sadly, that has made this formal statement necessary.

Again, our prayer is that all these matters will be resolved to the glory of Christ.

The Elders of Grace Community Church

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Published Feb 12, 2014
Brown A, Arnott B (2014) Breastfeeding Duration and Early Parenting Behaviour: The Importance of an Infant-Led, Responsive Style. PLoS ONE 9(2): e83893. DOI: 10.1371/journal.pone.0083893

"Results: Formula use at birth or short breastfeeding duration were significantly associated with low levels of nurturance, high levels of reported anxiety and increased maternal use of Parent-led routines . Conversely an infant-led approach characterised by responding to and following infant cues was associated with longer breastfeeding duration."

Raising Emotionally Healthy Children - 2014 Video

This KET Special Report looks at the importance of social and emotional development in the first years of life, featuring experts on infant and child development in Kentucky.

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Our first child was born in the summer of 09, and I promptly began trying to apply the Babywise method. The book had been highly recommended by a distant relative, and promised structure and sanity amidst the exhaustion and upheaval I felt as a new mother. However, our baby did not respond the way the book promised he would if we followed the schedule. All my attempts to adhere to the book led to deep frustration, arguments with my husband (who knew better than to let a book dictate our newborn's schedule), feeling like a failure, and the worst--resentment of my infant. Why couldn't he sleep and eat like the book said he should be doing? The Ezzos presented their arguments as infallible.
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Babywise and Preparation for Parenting

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Key Documentation

LIVING HOPE EVANGELICAL FELLOWSHIP:
Excommunication Statement

GRACE COMMUNITY CHURCH:
Statement about Ezzo - Materials

GRACE COMMUNITY CHURCH:
Statement about Ezzo - Character

CHRISTIAN RESEARCH INSTITUTE:
"The Cultic Characteristics of Growing Families International"
(originally titled "More than a Parenting Ministry")

CHRISTIAN RESEARCH INSTITUTE:
"GFI"
(orginally titled "A Matter of Bias?")

CHRISTIANITY TODAY:
Unprepared to Teach Parenting?

CHRISTIANITY TODAY:
Babywise Publisher Plans Contract Cancellation

AMERICAN ACADEMY of PEDIATRICS:
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