I used Ezzo stuff because it really fit my personality. I'm very structured and don't handle lots of chaos very well. I started with Preparation for Parenting when my youngest was a newborn. He is 12-1/2 now. My other kids are 11, 8, 5, and 7 months.
I was also a "contact mom" for GFI for several years. We used Preparation for the Toddler Years (back before it was even an "official" program), and GKGW, also. We read through Reflections of Moral Innocence and ended up not using that.
Having said all that, I no longer support the Ezzos in any way. First, we are realizing that it is not realistic to be that much in control of our children's every move. We see with our 11 year old that he has trouble making decisions with confidence now. Perhaps because we NEVER, and I mean NEVER let him make choices, so he never really learned how. When he tried to express his opinion as a toddler and a small child, we made him stop. He is extremely well behaved, by the way. A total pleasure to be around. He just has very little confidence.
As a contact mom, mothers from my church who were using the GFI programs would come to me with questions. I ran across many "stubborn" babies who wouldn't nap past the 45 minute mark of their expected one-and-a-half to two-hour nap. I started to notice how many of the same moms who had that complaint also ended up using formula with their babies by about 4 months of age. They thought they were just "one of those moms" who could not produce milk past that point. They were convinced that it was normal to not be able to nurse past 4 months! This is not so--in fact they were training their bodies to not make enough milk by not nursing often enough to keep up a good supply, and the shortened naps were probably a sign of hunger, not stubbornness. I saw that over and over and over.
Since distancing myself from GFI, I have learned to be a much more compassionate and relational parent. I have a long way to go. It is still my nature and personality to work toward results. I don't see them as rapidly now as I used to. And I'm not as proud when I walk into a restaurant - my kids aren't quite the "show pieces" they used to be.
But they are REAL and we are real. We are not trying to create an image any more. We are trying to love our children as Christ would have us love them. Yes, we still discipline our kids - we even spank them sometimes! And when my baby cries, I don't always feed her. I am aware of how long it has been since she last ate, and I use that in my evaluation of what is going on with her and what she needs.
The author is the mother of 5 children and a former contact mom with GFI.